A lot of teenagers change places during their teens. Mostly for studies and sometimes because their parents move out for better opportunities keeping in mind the family’s future. Almost 90% of students move out alone and have to start living an independent life when they are a teenager. Even though this is their dream since childhood, it comes with many obstacles and yet teaches you the most important lessons in life too.
The main thing that teenagers struggle with is the feeling of belongingness. In a state where they are away from their home and need the validation, they start to question themselves?
I am sure all of you have been through a stage where you felt you could belong neither at your new place nor at your hometown. At a stage in life where you are already feeling identity crisis, how do you deal with this too? Well, the answer is pretty simple. DO NOT OVERTHINK.
Easier said than done, but that is our solution. Change is constant for all of us and this is the first level of it. Living alone when you are a teenager is almost like playing a Jenga game. One wrong block, and your whole life comes crashing down.
So how do you deal with this conundrum?
First of all, stop comparing. The place you come from and the place you are in are two different places.
YOU CANNOT GAME OF THRONES TO FRIENDS.
Your current place has it qualities and so does your hometown. You cannot replace your childhood memories with teenage memories. You just add to them.
Another major factor for this dilemma is when you visit home. Every time you leave, you want to stay and every time you want to go back, you remember the things you would miss in your new place. Can you be at two places at one time? NO. So why be?
ENJOY THE MOMENT WHILE IT LASTS.
A lot of us cannot settle with the new culture. And trust me I get it. I changed cities too. When I shifted for me the culture, the language, everything was alien. I didn’t know where to be. When you don’t have familiar faces, it is hard to fit in. So how do you feel home away from home?
Try and be a part of some fun things to do in the city. Find things that are nearer to your former self.
SOMETIMES, ALMOST IS ENOUGH!
Try and know the culture and I’m sure you will find similarities. I mean if you can like pasta from Italy, you can find similar things in your country, right?
So, I hope after reading this, your dilemma won’t end.
You know why?
BECAUSE IT NEVER WILL, BUT YOU CAN DEAL WITH IT BETTER!